couples and money

Q&A: Future mate hasn’t filed tax returns. Am I liable?

May 4, 2025 By Liz Weston Leave a Comment

Dear Liz: I’m engaged to someone who just confessed that they have not filed tax returns for the last several years. How do we fix this? If they owe a lot of money, could the IRS come after me if we’re married?

Answer: Technically, debts incurred before marriage are considered separate. But there are many ways premarital debt can affect postmarital life.

If you live in a community property state, for example, creditors could come after jointly owned assets if your spouse fails to pay what they owe. Your spouse’s debt could affect how much you two can borrow if you want to apply for a mortgage or other joint obligation. And the money your spouse uses to pay off the debt isn’t available for other uses that could benefit both of you. That could include everything from paying bills to going on vacation to saving for retirement.

The IRS is not a good creditor to have, in case you had any doubts. The agency has many enforcement powers, such as withholding refunds, taking part of someone’s paycheck and seizing property to pay debts. Consider working with a tax pro to get the missing returns filed as quickly as possible. The IRS also offers payment plans for those who can’t pay in full.

Q&A: After her husband died, a widow’s credit limit plummeted

September 2, 2024 By Liz Weston

Dear Liz: You’ve mentioned how important it is for spouses to each have credit cards on which they are the primary account holder. My husband died last year. We had a credit card with statements that showed the charges we each had made on our separately numbered credit cards. I found the account was in his name only. I had to get a new credit card in my own name, and the credit limit dropped from $75,000 to $7,000. Hope this warns others.

Answer: It bears repeating that most credit cards these days are not joint accounts. If two of you are using a card, one is probably the primary account holder and the other the authorized user.

After a primary account holder dies, credit card companies are often willing to work with surviving spouses who were authorized users to establish new accounts. But as you experienced, the credit limits for these new accounts may be much lower than those of the original.

Q&A: What to do with a drawer full of unused credit cards?

August 19, 2024 By Liz Weston

Dear Liz: At 75 and 79, my husband and I have no plans to buy a new car or property. We own our home and cars. We have excellent credit ratings. We use one major credit card. I’m consolidating our financial life for our heirs. We have a drawer full of cards we never use. Is there any reason not to just cancel these cards and save our heirs the trouble? Should I care if my 850 credit score tanks?

Answer: At this point, simplifying your finances probably makes more sense than trying to keep your credit scores as high as they can possibly be.

Cards you aren’t using still need to be monitored for fraud, which is a hassle, plus you may be paying unnecessary annual fees. Reducing the number of accounts should make your life easier, but don’t go too far.

As explained in previous columns, each spouse should have at least one card on which they are the primary account holder. A spouse who is an authorized user often loses access to the card when the primary account holder dies and card issuers close the account. Few credit card issuers offer joint accounts these days, so you should determine who is the primary account holder and who is the authorized user on each of your cards before deciding which to close.

You can reduce the damage to your scores by trying to preserve as much of your current credit limits as possible. Ideally, the cards you keep will be the ones with the highest limits. If you’re closing other accounts at your chosen issuer, you can ask that the credit limits for the shuttered cards be transferred to the card you’re keeping.

This week’s money news

October 9, 2023 By Liz Weston

This week’s top story: Biden cancels another $9B in student debt for 125,000 borrowers. In other news: Tips for managing holiday budgets and stress, 4 ways married couples can use tax breaks to build wealth, and how climate change could affect when and where people travel.

Biden Cancels Another $9B in Student Debt for 125,000 Borrowers
So far, the Biden administration has canceled $127 billion in student loan debt.

Finance Nerds Share Tips for Managing Holiday Budgets and Stress
The holidays can be a financially stressful time. Saying yes to budgeting and no to overextending yourself can help.

4 Ways Married Couples Can Use Tax Breaks to Build Wealth
Married couples can use multiple strategies to build wealth when they take advantage of various tax credits and deductions.

How Climate Change Could Affect When and Where People Travel
After a summer of record-breaking temperatures, tourists may opt to travel in cooler months or to cooler places.

Q&A: How to kick your ex off the credit cards

May 16, 2022 By Liz Weston

Dear Liz: My divorce was final in 2016. My ex and I divided our credit cards as part of the settlement. I have several joint credit cards with high credit limits and zero balances. I have used them once a year to keep them in active status. Do I consider canceling them or do I risk lowering my credit score if I do?

Answer: If these truly are joint credit cards, then your ex potentially could run up a balance and default, damaging your credit. Obviously, that’s not ideal. With joint cards, neither party can be removed by the other, so the best option may be shutting down the account.

But joint credit cards are increasingly rare. Most cards used by couples have a primary cardholder and an authorized user. The authorized user is not responsible for paying the bill and can be removed at any time.

Contact the issuers to find out your status on each card: Are you a joint account holder? Primary or authorized user?

If you’re the primary holder on a card and your ex is still an authorized user, ask that your ex be removed. If the account truly is joint or if you’re the authorized user, consider opening one or two cards in your own name before taking any further action.

Your credit scores may still take a hit when you close accounts or get removed as an authorized user, but the additional lines of credit may limit the damage and ensure you still have access to credit.