Dear Liz: I lost my husband a year ago. We had been married since 1997 but separated 10 years ago. Does the house belong to me or my 22-year-old son? Also, how do I find out if he had life insurance without being charged a lot? His girlfriend said he did.
Answer: The two most important factors here are whether you were legally separated and whether your husband made a will. If you were legally separated, there may have been an agreement approved by a judge that could affect how assets are divided. If the separation was informal, then the law typically treats you as if you were still married.
If your husband had a will, that would dictate who gets what. If he died without a will, then state law determines how to divide what’s left after his final expenses and creditors have been paid. When someone is married and has children with the current spouse, typically the entire estate would go to that spouse. Otherwise, half usually goes to the spouse and the rest is split among other heirs, such as children from another union.
This assumes the house wasn’t jointly owned with someone else, such as your son or the girlfriend. Property held in joint tenancy, tenancy by the entirety, or community property with right of survivorship will automatically pass to the other owner at death.
“Consulting with an attorney or trusted CPA, checking title to the real property and reviewing mortgage statements should be done to help determine their rights and how to proceed,” said estate planning attorney Jennifer Sawday of Long Beach.
If you would be the beneficiary and probate hasn’t been started, consider hiring a probate attorney to put that process in motion. The person settling his estate can look through his bills and other paperwork for evidence of life insurance, or you can try the life insurance policy locator maintained by the National Assn. of Insurance Commissioners.
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