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This week’s money news

August 27, 2024 By Liz Weston

This week’s top story: 6 milestones and how they might change your life insurance needs. In other news: First EV road trip, weekly mortgage rates, and how to land the financial helicopter to support grown kids.

6 Milestones and How They Might Change Your Life Insurance Needs
Getting married, welcoming kids and starting a business are some reasons you might be thinking about life insurance.

What I Learned From My First EV Road Trip
If you’re new to electric cars or just curious about what a road trip with one is like, here’s what I learned from my cross-state drive.

Weekly Mortgage Rates Remaining Low Could Offset Higher Prices
Mortgage rates held mostly steady during the week ending Aug. 22, as mortgage lenders rolled with the punches.

Supporting Grown Kids? How to Land the Financial Helicopter
Most parents financially support their young adult children. Communication and deadlines can help.

Filed Under: Liz's Blog Tagged With: EV, financial support, financial support kids, life insurance, mortgage rates

Protecting a parent from financial opportunists

May 7, 2012 By Liz Weston

Dear Liz: I liked your answer to the elderly couple who were being badgered for money by their daughter and her husband. I agree that involving the other daughter can help.

I managed to combat the tendency of family and caregivers to pester my 90-something mom for money by convincing her to give me electronic access to her bank accounts. We did this so that I could pay her bills if she got sick unexpectedly. The other benefit is that I see the small larcenies as they begin to happen. Then I can quickly step in and stop them before they escalate. It is a lot easier having a conversation with someone who has sleazed $100 from her than to deal with the $5,000 theft that motivated me to set this in motion.

She is deeply grateful that she doesn’t have to be the heavy with the people she loves and depends on. You can’t make greed disappear, but it can be managed. I continue to be amazed by how easy it is for people to think that her money (which gives her a sublime sense of security in the midst of physical frailty) is their money because they need it and she is too kind (and dithery) to say no.

Answer: Installing a trusted gatekeeper can be an effective way to keep elderly people from being financially abused. The elderly person can refer all requests for money to the gatekeeper, which in itself is likely to reduce the begging. If a relative can’t perform this function, sometimes an advisor can. Ideally, the advisor would have a fiduciary relationship with the client, meaning that the advisor is legally obligated to put the client’s needs ahead of his or her own. Attorneys and CPAs are fiduciaries, and some financial planners are willing to be, as well.

Filed Under: Elder Care, Q&A Tagged With: elder abuse, elder care, elder law, elderly, financial support

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