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Q&A: Can stepmother prevent siblings from sharing their inheritance?

February 24, 2025 By Liz Weston

Dear Liz: My father passed away in May of last year. In his trust, he intentionally left out one of my four children. The remaining three, who were to inherit a substantial sum, decided to pool their money and share it with their excluded sibling.

My stepmother, who is in charge of his trust, has told other recipients of his largess that she will not be distributing any money to my children. She claims that their decision to give money to their sibling is a violation of my father’s wishes. Can she do this legally and would there be any consequences to her for doing this?

Answer: That depends on the trust’s language. Your father may have granted your stepmother the power to make discretionary distributions, or may have explicitly stated that distributions could be withheld from your children if they planned to share with the disinherited grandchild.

That’s not the norm, however. If the trust requires her to distribute the money and she fails to do so, your children could sue her for breaching her fiduciary duties and ask a court to replace her as trustee, says Jennifer Sawday, an estate planning attorney in Long Beach. If your stepmother’s attorney hasn’t explained this to her already, your kids may need to hire one who will.

The unanswered question: Why did your kids make their plan known, rather than simply waiting close-mouthed until the money was distributed? Perhaps they wanted to make a show of solidarity with their sibling, but the smarter course would have been to keep their intentions under wraps until the money landed in their accounts and was theirs to spend however they saw fit.

Filed Under: Inheritance, Legal Matters, Q&A Tagged With: Estate Planning, sharing an inheritance, trustees, trusts

Q&A: An aunt left him out of her will. Can his siblings share the windfall?

January 27, 2025 By Liz Weston

Dear Liz: My brother and I have received a cash inheritance from our aunt, as have our cousins, among a few others. Our youngest brother was excluded, as was our cousins’ youngest sibling. I believe my aunt, who was 96 when she died and in her 80s when her will was done, simply forgot these two as the family was spread out and contact was infrequent. My brother and I want to do the right thing for our younger brother and give him an equal share from our inheritance. I know most states don’t have inheritance taxes, but since he won’t technically be inheriting it I wonder if there are any other tax implications for us or him.

Answer: Whenever gift taxes are owed, which is rarely, they’re paid by the giver.

Dividing your inheritance with your brother would be a gift to him, so he would owe no taxes. You might have to file a gift tax return if the amount you give him is more than $19,000 (the current annual gift tax exclusion amount). But you wouldn’t owe gift taxes until the amount you give away over that annual limit exceeds your lifetime limit, which in 2025 is $13.99 million. The same is true for your other brother — a gift in excess of the $19,000-per-recipient annual exclusion would require filing a tax return, but probably not paying taxes.

Gifts in excess of the annual exclusion also reduce the amount you can pass free of estate taxes after your own death. If you’re a multimillionaire and likely to face these taxes, please consult an estate tax attorney.

Filed Under: Inheritance, Q&A, Taxes Tagged With: gift tax returns, gift taxes, gifts, Inheritance, sharing an inheritance

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