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What are you willing to give up?

October 22, 2013 By Liz Weston

HopeAs a reporter I learned a technique that saved my sanity. I asked my bosses to make choices.

In journalism, as in other fields, there’s far more good work to do than there is time to do it. Editors can and will keep piling on the assignments. So I learned, when my plate got too full, to ask my bosses to help me prioritize.

Here’s how I did it. I always said yes to the new assignment, then followed immediately with, “But I’m also supposed to do this and this and this. Which of these other projects should I drop?” Or “back burner” or “table” or whatever euphemism worked best with this particular editor.

Saying yes made it clear that I was a team player, that I valued my boss’ direction and that I wasn’t one of those pain-in-the-ass whiners who had to be wrestled into doing actual work. But quickly reviewing my current assignments reminded the editor of all the other work she’d tasked me with.

A more experienced journalist had explained that it was part of my boss’ job to help me prioritize. Managers are supposed to keep an eye on the company’s ultimate mission and encourage the actions that support that mission. Until he said that, I’d been saying yes to everything and driving myself nuts trying to fit it all in.

Fast forward a few years. I’m now my own boss, writing for different clients and once again faced with far more work than time to do it. Now I’m the one that has to make choices. I have to figure out what my ultimate mission was and what actions support it (and which don’t). I also now have a life—a husband and a baby girl I want to spend time with. Suddenly it became a lot easier to ditch the work that didn’t pay enough (or at all), and focus on the stuff that did.

There’s one other place it can be helpful to ask what you’re willing to give up, and that’s negotiating with family members about financial priorities.

First, you need to sit down together and set some priorities—what’s most important to accomplish, where you want to be in five years, 10 years, 30 years. You figure out what you need to do to get there, then wrestle your priorities into place. (Quick example: You want to take a vacation with your family next year, replace your car five years from now and retire before you’re 80. You figure how much you need to save for each goal and adjust until it’s doable. Maybe to save enough to retire by age 65 you’ll have to put the Disney cruise off a couple of years…that kind of thing.)

When new wants rear their heads—somebody’s agitating for a bathroom remodel, say—you return to those priorities and decide together what you’re willing to give up. Maybe the bathroom remodel is important enough to delay your retirement until 67 or to continue to drive your old car another five years. Maybe it’s not. But the exercise reminds you of what you really want, and helps you decide—together—when and how to adjust those priorities.

Filed Under: Liz's Blog Tagged With: Budgeting, financial priorities, goals

Debit cards can be riskier than credit cards

October 21, 2013 By Liz Weston

Dear Liz: I’m in my early 30s and never carry cash. I charge everything on my debit card. This seems to be a topic of discussion in my office. My co-worker keeps getting his identity stolen and says that using debit cards to pay for everything wreaks havoc on your finances. He says I should use my credit card instead. I just finished paying off all the expenses that creep up when buying a house and really don’t want to start using credit cards again. I don’t think I’d be as good as keeping track of where my money goes when it’s not coming automatically out of my account. But I don’t want to end up losing it all now that identity theft is running rampant. What’s the best solution here?

Answer: What you like most about your debit card — that the charges come directly out of your checking account — is also its greatest flaw. A bad guy who gets access to your account can drain it, and you’re left fighting to get your money back.

Contrast that with fraud on a credit card: You’re not required to pay the disputed charges while the credit card issuer investigates.

That doesn’t mean you should never use a debit card, but you should avoid using it in higher-risk situations. Using a debit card for online purchases isn’t smart, because your computer could be compromised with malware and because merchants often store purchase information in less-than-secure databases.

You also shouldn’t hand your debit card to anyone who could take it out of your sight, such as a waiter at a restaurant, since that person can swipe it through a device called a skimmer to steal the card’s relevant information before handing it back to you. Gas stations and outdoor ATMs can be risky as well, since criminals can more easily install devices to swipe your information than at more protected, better supervised locations.

Even at trusted merchants, though, things can go wrong. Tampered debit card terminals at Michaels craft stores allowed thieves to access customers’ bank accounts.

Using a credit card clearly has advantages, and doesn’t have to be an invitation to debt. Most issuers allow you to set up text and email alerts that let you know when balances exceed limits you set. Apps on your smartphone can help you keep track of charges as well.

Vigilance is the key to limiting the damage caused by identity theft. You should review transactions regularly on all your credit and bank accounts, regardless of what method you choose to pay.

Finally, keep in mind that debit cards do nothing to improve your credit scores, since debit cards are not attached to credit accounts. Light but regular use of credit cards can help achieve good scores, which in turn will save you money on mortgages, auto loans, utility deposits and, in most states, insurance premiums. You don’t need to carry a balance to have good scores, so exercising a little discipline in tracking your balances and paying them in full each month can save you money.

Filed Under: Banking, Credit & Debt, Credit Cards, Q&A Tagged With: Credit Cards, credit scoring, debit cards, debit cards vs. credit cards, fraud

Parent’s medical bills may be tax deduction

October 21, 2013 By Liz Weston

Dear Liz: The writer who wrote in about her mother’s medical bills should check to see if she took those bills as a schedule A deduction on her 2010 and 2011 federal tax returns. She still has time to amend those returns, if that is useful.

Answer: That’s a terrific suggestion. The writer’s mother may qualify as her dependent if the writer covered more than half of the mother’s necessary living expenses, including in-home care, and the mother’s situation met certain other requirements, such as not having gross income in excess of IRS limits. Gross income does not include nontaxable Social Security checks or other tax-exempt income. The limits for gross income were $3,650 in 2010, $3,700 in 2011, $3,800 in 2012 and is $3,900 for 2013, said Mark Luscombe, principal analyst for CCH Tax & Accounting North America.

Even if the mother didn’t qualify as a dependent, a deduction may still be possible, Luscombe said. As long as the writer provided more than one-half of the mother’s support, the writer might still be able to claim a deduction for medical expenses if all of the writer’s medical expenses, including those paid for the mother, exceed 7.5% of the writer’s adjusted gross income in 2010 and 2011. (The medical expense deduction threshold increased from 7.5% to 10% in 2013 for those under age 65.)

Filed Under: Elder Care, Q&A, Taxes Tagged With: elder care, support, tax deductions

Monday’s need-to-know money news

October 21, 2013 By Liz Weston

Today’s top story: Could holding out until 70 make a significant difference in your retirement? Also in the news: Saving on holiday air travel, what to do when retirement boredom sets in, and what daily habits could be derailing your budget.

Does Layaway Affect Your Credit?
Could this convenient holiday shopping tool impact your credit score?

5 Things Retirees Miss About Work
What happens when retirement finally arrives?

How to save money on your holiday flights
The trip to Grandma’s doesn’t have to cost a fortune.

8 Things That Can Make or Break Your Budget
Those daily trips to Starbucks can add up.

Why Waiting Longer for Social Security Is Usually Smart
Could holding out until 70 make a significant difference in your retirement?

Filed Under: Liz's Blog Tagged With: Budgeting, holiday travel, Retirement

Thursday’s need-to-know money news

October 17, 2013 By Liz Weston

Today’s top story: Three key numbers that will make your retirement planning easier. Also in the news: Common budgeting mistakes, how to save on groceries with your smartphone, and getting your financial house in order.

Retirement Planning With Just 3 Numbers
These three key numbers will make your retirement planning easier.

5 Budgeting Mistakes Most People Make
How to avoid these budgeting pitfalls.

Ways to Save: App shows best grocery bargains
Your smartphone can save you big bucks at the grocery store.

Mind Your Own Financial House, Not Washington’s
Now that the financial crisis in Washington is over, it’s time to get back to personal business.

Men vs. Women: Who’s More Worried Over Retirement Health-Care Costs
The results are surprising.

Filed Under: Liz's Blog

Wednesday’s need-to-know money news

October 16, 2013 By Liz Weston

creditPreparing your holiday checklist, why checking your credit report is a must, and what you need to know about a possible national debt default.

Pre-Holiday Guide: What To Mark On Your Financial Checklist
Santa isn’t the only one with a list for the holidays.

Why Some People Choose Work Over Retirement
What happens when retirement doesn’t live up to the hype?

Ways to Cut Heating Costs, Beat Rising Fuel Prices
Winter is just around the corner.

How to Make Sure Your Credit Report Is Accurate
Mistakes can wreak havoc with credit limits and interest rates.

Why Many Americans Aren’t Concerned About a National Debt Default
Ignorance may be bliss, but a national debt default could hurt everyone.

Filed Under: Liz's Blog Tagged With: credit report, debt default, fuel prices, heating costs, holiday shopping, Retirement

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