Dear Liz: Some time ago you referenced an “aid and attendance benefit” for veterans and their spouses. We have a 94-year-old bedridden widowed mom who has a permanent catheter and is tube-fed each day. I had never heard about this benefit and can’t seem to find a contact anywhere within the Department of Veterans Affairs who can help. Who can I contact?
Answer: The aid and attendance benefit isn’t well known, perhaps because the rules for who can get it are restrictive and complex.
You can find a summary of the benefit on the Veterans Affairs website. The benefit is actually a supplement to veterans’ pensions. To get a pension, the veteran must have served during wartime and meet income and asset restrictions. To get the aid and attendance benefit, the vet must have a medical need for assistance or supervision. Surviving spouses may be eligible if they were married to the veteran at the time of their death. There are numerous other rules and the application can be tough to navigate. For help, consider contacting the National Veterans Foundation, a nonprofit that helps vets and their families. Its Lifeline for Vets toll-free helpline is (888) 777-4443.