Answer: You need to accept your new reality, rather than papering it over with ill-advised loans or raids on your retirement accounts.

That means reducing your expenses dramatically to reflect your new, lower income. If your housing expenses eat up more than a third of your current pay, for example, you need to consider your alternatives. You have equity in your home, which should make a sale easier. If you want to hang on to the house, consider getting roommates or even renting out the house while you live elsewhere (if the rent will cover your home’s monthly expenses).

You may have loan payments or other debts taken on when you had more income that you can no longer afford. If that’s the case, discuss your situation with both a legitimate credit counselor (one affiliated with the National Foundation for Credit Counseling at http://www.nfcc.org) and a bankruptcy attorney (find referrals from the National Assn. of Consumer Bankruptcy Attorneys at http://www.nacba.org).

Your home equity should be reserved for emergencies, not used to finance a lifestyle you can no longer afford. And your retirement funds should be left alone for retirement.

Answer: It’s not clear that you need to do anything. The leading credit scoring formula, FICO, treats large home equity lines of credit as installment loans, even though they’re actually revolving accounts. The company that creates the FICO formula is secretive about what constitutes “large,” but a six-digit line of credit would almost certainly qualify.

Answer: If you want to tap your home equity, you’ll sign the agreement.

In the boom years, many banks abandoned prudent lending practices and didn’t bother to verify borrowers’ stated incomes. That has changed, and virtually every new mortgage these days requires borrowers to give lenders access to their recent tax returns as filed with the IRS.

So you can close this account if you want, but a new lender is going to want to see the same records.

You may feel your current lender’s demand is invasive, since you’ve handled the line of credit responsibly in the past. But high default and foreclosure rates have lenders spooked. Yours has obviously decided to verify that you are the low-risk customer that you seem to be, so if you want access to the line of credit, you have to play ball.

Our current balance is less than 5% of the total available limit, but my credit reports show our credit line lender recently reviewed our credit history. I am concerned that our bank will lower our available credit as my son is about to start college. Are my concerns valid?

Answer: Perhaps. Lenders have been reducing home equity lines of credit as home values drop. If your mortgage balance and your line of credit total more than 60% of the current value of your home, you may be at risk of having your limit reduced right when you planned to use it.

If that’s the case and your son is heading off to school in the next year, it might be prudent to withdraw the money now and keep it in a savings account.

If college won’t start for several years, though, you might want to explore other options, since it’s generally not a good idea to borrow money so far in advance of when you’ll need it.

Fortunately, you have plenty of options when it comes to paying for college. Just make sure you fill out a Free Application for Federal Student Aid. Even if you don’t qualify for need-based aid, filling out the FAFSA will allow you to apply for federal student loans. Your son can get Stafford loans at a 6.8% fixed rate and you could get PLUS loans with a fixed rate ranging from 7.9% to 8.5%. Although the amount of student loans your son can get is generally limited to $31,000 for an undergraduate degree, PLUS loans allow you to borrow whatever you need to cover any costs not paid for by the student’s financial aid package.

Answer: Unfortunately, many would-be refinancers are in your uncomfortable position. They have a second mortgage, such as a home equity line of credit, on their property. These loans are known as “seconds” because the lender is in second position to be paid off when the home is sold, after the primary lender has been paid.

For a refinance to proceed, these HELOC lenders have to agree once again to be subordinated into second position. Some lenders balk because they don’t believe their borrowers have sufficient equity to cover both loans (even though, as you note, a lower payment on the first mortgage could make it more likely that the borrower could make payments on the second).

But a bigger problem seems to be lack of staff and lack of priority. Lenders are so busy trying to meet the demand for refinancing that other concerns, including subordination, often fall to the bottom of their to-do list.

That means you have to be extremely vigilant if you don’t want your refinance deal to fall apart. Call your new lender and your HELOC lender every few days to track the progress of your subordination. If there are problems or missing paperwork, promptly address those issues.

If your rate lock is within two to three weeks of expiring and your subordination still hasn’t been approved, call your HELOC lender and politely ask that your request be given top priority.

If you can’t get through to the subordination department’s main line, ask the phone reps if there is a fax number or e-mail address you can use. If all else fails, take your problem to the bank’s chief executive. You’ll find the name and address online.

Answer: Your line of credit is one of the bank’s assets. If your bank fails, the bank that takes over would add your loan to its books.

That said, the new bank may have different standards for how much of your equity you can borrow and may cut back or freeze your line of credit. That could happen even if your bank doesn’t fail, since many lenders are reducing their risk exposure by cutting back on lines of credit, particularly in areas where home prices are falling rapidly.

You’re probably safe, for now, if the balance you owe on your mortgage plus your home equity credit limit total less than 60% of your home’s current value. If your “loan-to-value” exceeds that limit, however, you would be smart to look for alternative sources of emergency funds. The best: cash in the bank.